A Balanced Marriage

Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth: The Scripture says, “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church” (5:22-23).

Notice what you don’t see here—aggressiveness on the one hand and passivity on the other. The husband has the responsibility to provide loving, humble, leadership. On the one hand, he’s not to be harsh or domineering. At the other extreme, he’s not to be passive or lazy.

The wife is called to give active, intelligent, joyful submission to her husband’s leadership. Like her husband, she also needs to avoid aggression, domineering, or belittling. But she also avoids passivity. She’s not a robot who never speaks up, never participates in the decision-making process, and never challenges her husband if he’s wrong.

Do you tend to lean toward either aggressiveness or passivity? What can you do to move toward greater balance?

With Seeking Him, I’m Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth.